As human beings, we are definitely creatures of habit. We take the same route to work everyday. We listen to the same 3-4 radio stations (or playlists on our iPod) everyday. We use the same shampoo to wash our hair. Ultimately when we find something we’ve become comfortable with, we tend to stick to that and not change our ways. For some things, this works great. By taking the same route to work everyday you can predict where there will be traffic, which roads to avoid, which lights take the longest, etc. However, when it comes to some things, it is this idea and habit of a routine that prevents us from discovering and trying new things; and meeting new people.
Think about it. If you did the exact same thing everyday, each day, for the rest of your life, would you expect the outcome to be any different day to day? Probably not. Yet, this is exactly what many of us do in our dating life. We follow the same steps, the same routine, day after day and then wonder why the outcome is the same. Some girls always fall for the bad guy and then find themselves wondering why he can’t be more romantic and sensitive. Some guys always find the most dependent girls and wonder why she’s so clingy and smothering. And for some, they remain single, wondering if they will ever find someone. In every one of these scenarios, the pattern is the same – repeat actions = repeat results.
If you really want to change the outcome, it starts with changing your actions. Here are a few points to keep in check, so listen up!
Girls – Next time you meet a guy, assess his level of ‘badness’ and if this is ‘really’ what you want. Do you always ignore the nice guy in the room? Well, if you’re looking for romance, these are the guys you want to be talking to.
Guys – Next time you meet a girl, assess her level of confidence and how she carries herself. The more confident she seems, the less likely she will be calling you 20 times a day asking when you are coming over.
Singles – CHANGE IT UP! Do you always say ‘no’ when some friends ask you to grab a drink after work? Do you always listen to your iPod wherever you go, eliminating any chance of that cute guy/girl talking to you on the morning commute? Have you been avoiding getting online, despite your friends telling you how amazing TwoMangoes.com is? 
Do you always shy away from meeting new people or trying something different?
Either way, as much as we think we’re part of this cosmic universe where our fate is predetermined and nothing we can do or say will change that – our actions and decisions still play a role in our fate.
We do have the ability to change the outcome; it just requires a little push from our end. Change it up!
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As human beings, we are definitely creatures of habit. We take the same route……